I am having a big birthday bash for my 30th in October. It will be held in a private room at an establishment. It’s adults-only party, but one of my friends has asked if children will be invited. It’s an evening event. I’m not quite sure how to word it on the invitation so that guests know children are not invited. Should I write, “adults only?” – Turning Thirty
Dear Turning Thirty,
Since your party is an event for your 30th birthday and taking place in the evening, you really don’t need to specify “adults only” on your invitations. Those three elements should make it obvious enough that this will not be a child-friendly event. I’m quite shocked your friend has asked, especially since it’s a 30th birthday party!
Officially, if you are hosting an adults-only party you do not need to specify on the invitations, but rather you should address the invitations to “Mr. & Mrs.” or “Bob & Sue.” For a family friendly occasion you should address the invitation as “The Jones Family” or list the names of the children on the invitation, along with the parents’.
Another solution is to choose an invitation that is more sophisticated than one would use for a family event. Often times this helps any questioning parents.