Do you have any advice on dealing with the different holidays? I have purchased Christmas cards, but do not want to offend any co-workers who celebrate Hanukkah or other winter holidays. Do you have any tips for balancing Christmas and Hanukkah during the holiday season? – Christmas Conscious
Dear Christmas Conscious:
I know a little something about this topic! While I celebrate Christmas, The Beau does not–well, he does now that we’re married just as I now celebrate Hanukkah too. When it comes to religion and customary traditions, especially during the holiday season, it’s best to be open-minded, courteous and respectful.
It’s ok if you purchased Christmas cards, but be respectful about who receives your Christmas card. This year The Beau and I purchased regular holiday cards with no mention or reference to either of our religions. However, before we were married, I always purchased Christmas cards and a smaller pack of generic holiday cards for any friends or co-workers I knew did not celebrate Christmas. In an ideal world, all of us would buy a variety of cards, suitable for each recipient. The reality though, is that we do not all celebrate a variety of religions so it’s perfectly acceptable for you to buy your Christmas cards. However, my advice is to be respectful.
If your Christmas cards contain an image of the baby Jesus, perhaps buy a different card for any friends or co-workers that you know are Jewish. Then again, if your card simply has a picture of Frosty the Snowman and a greeting such as, “Wishing You a Merry Christmas,” why not have a little fun with it by crossing out “Christmas” with a handwritten “Hanukkah.”
Using your best judgement is what it all comes down to. If you think you might offend someone, then don’t do it. If you know the recipient will appreciate the gesture, regardless of what holiday the card specifically refers to, then I see no harm in spreading a little holiday cheer.